Unforced Rhythms of Grace: Making Peace with the Past
“The entire process (of self-development) can be very exciting and entertaining. But the problem is there is no end to it. The fantasy is that if one heads in the right direction and just works hard enough to learn new things and grows enough and gets actualized, one will be there. None of us is quite certain exactly where there is, but it obviously has something to do with resting.”
Healing, after all, happens from the inside out.
In this life, people will give you a platform—but the more you identify with an old, outdated story that no longer serves you, the more likely you’ll feel stuck, limited, and in some cases, owned.
You’ll be offered a platform, followers, and the chance to lock in an identity—both for yourself and others to recognize. You’ll feel the pressure to prove yourself, to validate your worth:
Do something spectacular. Go viral. Say what they want to hear. Hustle harder.
There is another way.
When the desert gifts shape you, influence no longer drives you—presence does.
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Live Freely in the Unforced Rhythms of Grace
and You Will, Inspire Others.
Live Freely in the Unforced Rhythms of Grace
and You Will, Inspire Others.
To Live Freely is to live a life True to Yourself in Alignment.
From this Source you have the access and ability to process pain, heal and make room for hope and healing. We can draw out the value of the learning experience. And part of that learning? Making peace with where you’ve been.
Making Peace with the Past
In the book Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life, Brian Tracy reveals:
“The fact is that it takes two to make a prison: the prisoner and the jailer. Both are in the jail. When you let the other person go free, you liberate yourself…”
We CAN Choose to forgive—but we also know that word can carry weight. For some, it’s been misused or misunderstood, even weaponized. So let’s begin here: we can also choose acceptance.
Acceptance allows the mind to acknowledge what has happened without continuing to resist it. Forgiveness, then, becomes an offering from the heart—a release, not a justification. It does not condone the harm done, but it frees you to live more fully.
In learning and grieving, we can process, shed, release, and hopefully discard what ails us—making room for Hope and Healing and uncovering your True Self. This work happens in the Secret place, the lonely place, the unknown.
This is the place where you are utterly changed from the inside out.
Brian Tracy recommends forgiveness toward yourself, parents, people close to you, and anyone who has hurt you. And even if forgiveness feels like too much at first, perhaps start with this small, freeing phrase:
“I wish you well.”
I welcome you to consider your life and encourage you to step out in Faith. Please don’t settle for the preoccupations in life that are fleeting and rob you of great joy. Life is for the Living.
Let’s work together if that’s helpful—or find another caring companion in the journey.
You are here and reading this. Notice every good and perfect gift in and around you.
The ability to read, breathing involuntarily, to stand up, walk, digest, process and learn with great clarity—believing truly that Life is miraculous.
Wake Up. Simply Be Here Now and breathe. This IS Living.
Wake Up. Simply Be Here Now and Breathe. This is Living.
The background noise of grumbling, complaining, and forfeiting the agency you’ve been given can easily lull you to sleep.
The Spiritual Life is about Waking Up. From this place, you begin to see more clearly the unforced rhythms of grace available to you—like margin, solitude, and the abundance of Sabbath rest.
If you’re tired, lonely, and ready for change—good.
Make a catalyst move. There’s no time like the Present.
“Are You Tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me - watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”
There is another way.
One that’s not forced.
A rhythm of grace—unforced, aligned, and light.
Where healing begins from the inside out.
Where peace with the past makes room for presence.
Where forgiveness and acceptance walk together.
Where you wake up—gently—
to what’s already here.
To who you already are.
And how you’re being invited to grow.
Live freely. Inspire others.
Grow Your Own Way with these Resources
Whether you’re exploring relationships, waking up to the present moment, or just wanting to live with more intention—these resources have been personally meaningful in my own work and life. They’re simple, clear, and full of grace.
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Dating, Relationships, and Marriage
The Relationship Handbook by George Pransky
A refreshingly honest take on love, misunderstanding, and the freedom that comes when you stop trying to fix each other.
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Waking Up Stop Fixing Yourself: Wake Up, All Is Well by Anthony De Mello
A clear and compassionate invitation to wake up to your life—with less effort, more awareness, and a lot more peace.
Josh Neuer is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Greenville, SC.
Josh’s Life’s Work is to Make Room for Hope and Healing. Josh is Passionate about Empowering Meaningful Change in People with Counseling, Coaching and Consulting. He is the founder of Joshua Neuer, LLC, a committed husband and father, and is absolutely crazy about relationships!
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